Two Cardinal rules of deliverance
You must show the type of Love Jesus has toward the person coming
for deliverance
You must not assume, argue or react but always ask The Holy
Spirit what to do. After all He is there to guide you in all things
spiritual.
You must show to people coming for deliverance the type of Love Jesus has toward the people.
People coming for deliverance usually have fear, guilt, shame, self-condemnation, fear of exposure of terrible sins, low self-esteem, value or worth and other negative emotions and feelings, even if only subconsciously.
Satan ensures they have as many of these that he can place in them.
To criticise, attack or appear to reject the person coming for deliverance will drive them away. Especially if they have difficulty facing any of their weakness or sins.
You need to show complete acceptance of them. If they cannot face a sin or area of weakness then you need to find a way of praying them through it or working around the problem area until they can deal with it.
I find it is good to suggest to pray for the problem area or weakness just in case the person has it. So that if it is there, it will be dealt with. Because The Five Steps do not need you to know their weaknesses or sin, they can pray in their heart and give these things to Jesus so that you or any other person do not know what they gave to Jesus.
It is none of your business anyway. What they give to Jesus is between Him (Jesus who they have offended Mat 25:40) and them.
Other times Jesus will guide you to other areas that will eventually result in the person being able to face these problem areas.
You must never assume, argue or react, but always ask The Holy Spirit what to do.
If you react, argue or assume, you block The Holy Spirit and He cannot advise you what to do. He will show you how to work around defences (a result of fear of exposure) and get around problems the person has in facing things. But if you react you will not be able to do this at first and the person may see your reaction and withdraw or run.
Remember that Satan will try to use your reactions and assumptions to guide you away from what God wants you to do as well as to cause the person to run from deliverance.
In deliverance, you must quieten your mind, remove all attitudes towards the person and just listen to The Holy Spirit. He will guide you how to show God’s Love to them and what to pray for them.
Hindrances to Deliverance:
Unforgiveness
Deliberate unrepented sin
Unresolved
offences
Any of these can lose you your Salvation if not repented of (Rev 3:5). All of these break God’s Law of Love.
The basis of repentance is to turn away from anything that does not show God’s type of Love, or which does not demonstrate or promote His Kingdom or Will.
Unresolved offences need to be dealt with. Jesus is a peacemaker and reconciler and expects you also to be one. He requires you wholeheartedly to try to reconcile to the person you have offended and if the other person does not accept reconciliation then it is their problem. You have done what Jesus requires you to do.
The reason you do not resolve an offence is usually either unforgiveness, anger, fear, or even all three. You need deliverance to be free to try and forgive or reconcile to the person you have offended.