Table of Contents
The page numbers refer to the book
but will give an idea where a topic is in the section
Deliverance’ Prayers 8
Rededication to Jesus. 9
Prayer for Abuse 9
General Deliverance Prayers 13
Things put on you by Satan 14
Curses and contracts with Satan 14
The Mind 15
General Repentance 15
Casting-out Prayers 17
Some helps for you Christian walk 17
When Tempted 17
How to Hear The Holy Spirit 19
Background to the Five Steps 21
The Five Steps to Victory and the reasons for them 22
The Five Steps are all based on Worship 23
An example of a general deliverance prayer: 24
Note" 25
Sleeping Around 27
Betrothal and The kingdom of God 27
Guidelines for using this book 28
Prayers to say before reading this book further 28
Sex before marriage 29
If not in a betrothal situation and desiring a spouse 29
If in a betrothal situation 29
On Love 30
Love and The Fruit of The Spirit 30
The Perspectives of a person whom expresses God’s Love 30
The Fruit of The Spirit Gal 5:22-23 31
Love (1 Cor. 13:4-7) 32
What God’s Love is (1 Cor. 13 4:7) 32
Joy 34
Peace 34
Gentleness (kindness out of compassion and love) 35
Goodness 36
Faith 36
Meekness (Humility) 36
Temperance (self-controlled in all things) 37
‘Against such there is no law’ 37
Men are to treat girls as sisters 1 Tim 5:1-2 39
Singles Socializing 40
Previously married people 40
Do not seek a wife 42
Satan promotes His way of courtship in the Media 42
God’s basic unit is marriage 43
The rules of The Kingdom apply to a betrothal’ 46
You must not be unequally yoked spiritually 2 Cor 6:14 46
It must be God’s Will for the couple 46
The relationship 47
Betrothal is the time to prepare for Matrimony 48
There is no marriage so headship is not relevant 48
Domestic submission is for order in the marriage 48
You will not ask for anyone you love to sin 49
A time of getting to know each other spiritually 49
A time of joining to each other through finding out 49
You need to led by The Holy Spirit when resolving problems 49
Encourage each others masculinity or femininity 50
Cultural conventions should be observed where possible 50
God provides a wife 51
Reality of Marriage 51
How you know it is the right person to marry? 51
Exposing yourself to your betrothed 60
Another aspect of exposing yourself before marriage 61
Intimacy 62
The importance of the spiritual in the betrothal period 62
The Stages of Betrothal 63
Gimmicks and romance 64
Focus in Courtship 65
Family and courtship 65
Unity in the spirit 66
Steward of your betrothed 66
Appreciation of your betrothed spouse 67
Words 67
Expression of love 68
Betrothal and Marriage require effort 68
Manners 69
Decisions 70
Praying together 70
Betrothed Couples and spiritual warfare 70
Problem Resolution 70
How to Hear God and His requirements: 71
There are at least Five Other Ways God Speaks: 71
Stewardship and Betrothal 72
Romance 72
In Conclusion 72
Sex Laws of The Law 73
Preamble 76
Stewardship is involved in Marriage 77
Current status of many marriages 78
What a wife gives up 79
Prayers to pray before reading further 81
A Woman should pray 81
Manhood 81
A husband and wife can pray 81
A single woman or man should pray 82
Parents should pray 82
Dedication of a child by parents 82
The curse on Eve (prayed by women) Gen. 3:16 82
Casting-out Prayers 82
Stewardship of Love 88
The Importance of Love 88
If Lordship is in place then headship is in place 93
The basis of headship of a husband 93
The Two Main Passages that deal with Headship 94
Headship and Jesus 100
Headship and The Holy Spirit 101
Exercising Headship 102
Headship is a learned process. 102
When Spiritual Authority is exercised in Marriage 102
Some guidelines for headship 103
Headship Commands to the Wife 104
Wife Initiative 104
Crossing headship boundaries 105
Requirements of a wife 106
Failure of submitting to headship 107
What happens if the man fails headship? 108
Why should a wife submit to her husband? 108
Why should a man Love his wife? 108
The highest level of headship 111
Submission and Headship 112
In Summary 113
Submitting in Love to one another 114
Submitting to another to learn from them. 115
Serving your spouse 117
What attitudes should married people have? 117
U 119
nity in Decision Making 120
Emotion, logic and reason in a marriage. 120
Conflict in Marriage 121
Ministry as a Couple 122
The ministry of each spouse 122
Domestic Headship for single women 122
Example to Children 123
Boundaries in Marriage 123
Headship and boundaries 124
In conclusion I deal with Adam’s Sin 124
Relating to a non-Christian Spouse 125
Non-Christian Husband (1 Pet 3:1-6) 125
Non-Christian Wife 126
Satan’s attack on the family 127
Marriage Roles as defined in the Bible 129
The original arrangement 129
Remember 130
Some of the roles defined by God 131
The Wife 131
The education of the children 134
Women are steward of the family diet. 135
Just a mother and housekeeper? 136
The mature wife is also to be a Godly educator of younger wives 136
Rewards of a wife who supports her husband in ministry 137
For men 137
Pornography 139
Family Prayer 139
What about single parents? 140
Disciplining Children 140
Problem Resolution 141
Stewardship Preliminary 142
Headship is correct stewardship of the wife on behalf of God. 142
Stewardship of Sexuality 143
stewardship of a wife’s body 144
Stewardship of possessions 145
Rights in Marriage and forgiveness 145
I deal with some of the basic needs of a marriage. 147
Communication 147
Sins prior to marriage 147
Intimacy 148
Sharing fears 148
Sex 148
Security 149
Order 150
What a Wife Needs 151
How to keep a wife or future wife happy 152
In Summary 155
Fathers authority in the Home 155
Discipline in the house 156
Praying for The Family 156
Staying together as a family 156
What a husband Needs (apart from sex and food) 157
Sex - the approach to the other person’s body 160
Sex - the approach to the other person’s body 161
Shyness 162
Using sex as compensation 162
Defrauding the spouse sexually 162
Sex is a gift from God 163
Sexual Techniques and problems 163
Femininity 165
Communicating Femininity 165
Why does a woman need to believe she is beautiful? 165
Releasing the woman’s Potential 168
Relaxation and Entertainment 168
Wives and their temperature 169
In-laws 169
Wives and Exhaustion 169
Christmas Day Preparations 171
In sickness 172
Exhausting a wife (by Susan) 173
The attitudes/emotions we should have in a marriage 176
Unity of behaviour 177
In Sickness and in Death 177
The Second Witness in a marriage 178
Why is hearing The Spirit not taught? 179
Advice to a husband on ministry 179
Are women equal in ministry? 180
Can a wife minister or lead in a ministry. 180
Ministry Desires 181
Abortion and Birth Control 182
Abusive Spouse 183
Mental Abuse 184
The Covering of a wife 187
An Example of failed headship 190
The example of the failed headship of Abraham (Gen 16) 192
Sanctifying the non-Christian spouse 192
Hindrance to reconciliation: 194
How does this war of the spouses begin? 196
The Right to be offended 197
Fault finding 198
Healing the relationship 198
Perfectionism 198
Problems with apologising 199
Dealing with adultery 201
Susan narrates her experience as follows: 204
Can you Divorce? 208
Christian Love stops Divorce 208
Support during Divorce 210
What Hurts to Deal With 210
Types of Emotions and Attitudes 211
Correct Attitudes of the Spouse Being Divorced 211
Support for the spouse 211
Miscellaneous Advice 212
Learn Spiritual Warfare 213
We receive communication as follows: 215
Aim of communication 215
Verses on Speech 218
Some of the reasons God made marriage 222