FLIRTING - THE 7 SECRETS OF SUCCESSFUL INTERACTION
Successful flirting is key to establishing rapport with someone, but it often strikes fear into the heart of the bravest person. Never fear, though, even the shyest among us can learn how to flirt like a pro.
Secret #1 - Be Who You Really Are
Sigmund Freud once said “We leak truth from every pore,” and he was right. When you pretend to be someone you’re not it’s painfully obvious to everyone else but you. When first getting acquainted with someone don’t brag, don’t exaggerate, and don’t pretend. Do share something interesting about yourself, and be honest about your strengths and foibles alike.
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Secret #2 - Lose The Pick-Up Lines
We’ve all heard them, used them, and had them used on us. The pick-up line is one of the least effective ways to strike up a conversation and will cause most people to avoid you like the plague. There’s no need for a fancy line, just be sincere and politely say hello. Most people will respond favorably.
Secret #3 - Take A Chance Now And Then
Avoiding the risk of rejection is a natural human behavior, at least for most people. Rejection is painful and hard on our egos. The reality is that if you feel shy about approaching someone, they probably feel just as shy about approaching you. So go ahead and initiate a conversation. With a little practice you’ll get more comfortable reaching out to someone new.
Secret #4 - Body Language Is Your Friend
Experts say that 55% of communication is body language, 38% is tone of voice, and only 7% is actual words. So what’s the lesson? Pay attention to body language and tone of voice when you’re flirting. Use eye contact, a friendly smile, and gentle touches on the shoulder or arm to communicate your interest. If the other person returns your attention then you’re both on your way to a successful interaction.
Secret #5 - Too Sexy Is Too Much
Successful flirting means showing interest without being too sexual. Gentle touching of arms or shoulders is okay; running your hand up the inside of someone’s thigh is not. If you’re too overtly sexual in your flirting, you will likely generate attention that is unwanted or undesirable.
If you’re not sure how your flirting is perceived, ask a friend for feedback or practice in front of a mirror to see what visual clues you’re really sending. When in doubt, tone things down a bit and just see what happens.
Secret #6 - Pay Attention
There’s an old cliché that says we have two ears and one mouth because listening is twice as important as talking. It’s true, and the most successful flirters pay attention to paying attention. Don’t let your eyes wander around the room or your body language show you’re distracted. Think about how you feel when someone isn’t really listening to you, and you’ll quickly realize how important it is to pay attention when flirting.
Secret #7 - Relax And Have Fun
Flirting is supposed to be fun, not excruciatingly painful, so relax! Smile, be playful, and keep the conversation light while you’re flirting. If you’re feeling shy, that’s okay, just take a deep breath and let yourself flow along with the moment. Before you know it you’ll be flirting away and not even remember how you got started.
The secrets to successful flirting really aren’t secrets at all, they’re just common sense actions that we sometimes forget or overlook. Think about how you flirt with others and try out some of these “secrets” for yourself. You’ll be glad you did!
